peers. In today's world of increased understanding and tolerance, why is it that boys feel that they even need a way out of being gay?
There is the theological problem which youth from certain faiths may feel, being told that if they are gay they will necessarily go to hell. That is a no win situation for a child who feels same sex attraction, did not invite that feeling, is being told its OK to feel that way and that its just the way that they were born and yet, because of that, they will burn for eternity.
There may be the feeling that they don't WANT to be gay, for whatever reason. Be it a deep desire to fit in, to feel masculine, to please and impress their parents, to feel 'normal' as they perceive normal to be, a preference for a heterosexual social life or even a desire to be married and have children in ways that there modeled by the parents, some boys may just reject the destiny that is being set before them.
Fourteen year old Jamey Rodemeyer spoke on Youtube about coming out in school and how much support he had from friends. He seemed to be an activist for gay youth, stating in the video that "IT GETS BETTER" and he himself seeing the optimism that came with such support. Yet, Jamey succumbed to the bullying online in spite of all of that optimism and while we don't yet know the exact details or cause of his tragic suicide, indicators suggest that gay bashing drove him over the edge.
For some reason, all of the supposed tolerance out there does not seem to be working to its fullest potential and what we never seem to get is this: If a few kids are pushed over the edge from cyber bullying, how many kids are being pushed to the edge. Stated another way, if pressure rates from one to ten, and ten is what pushes kids to commit suicide, how many kids out there are at 9, at 8 or at 7. And what is the psychological impact of being at those numbers? Can we assume that as long as you don't kill yourself you are fine?